Guys, this post is for you. Girls, I’d love to hear your opinions. There’s the age old debate, who are more confusing and complicated, girls or guys? Guys confuse the hell out of me, like really, sometimes you just boggle my mind. That said, I feel for you as well, cause as a girl I’ll admit, we are very complicated with a capital C! Girls, I can’t help you out with what goes through a guys mind, cause hell I’d love to know myself. But boys, you I can help. This post is on 5 things your girlfriend probably won’t tell you.
What actually goes through our heads?
1. Yes, even though you dating us, we can still be insecure. When you single you always look at relationships and see all the positive sides. When in a relationship, you remember all the positives of being single. As girls, we know this. It’s normal for us to obsess in our heads about it. A bit more often than is probably necessary. Our big fear is now that you can’t have other girls, you going to want them all. I’m not here to explain it. It’s just how we are. I did admit we are complicated beings. That girlfriend, who was so chilled about you having friendly, innocent conversations with other girls, yeah well in her head she was far from chilled. Well now you thinking “Well what the hell must I do? It’s not like I can stop communication with all other non-related females?” Well that’s what we wish but we not that dramatic. [Well most of us aren’t. ] There’s a 1 or 2 little rules to always remember. NEVER pay another girl more attention than your girlfriend. NEVER comment about a specific girl over and over again and if a girl is blatantly flirting, let her know you not on the market. If you are going to wander, then wander…but break it off with us first. Cheating is not cool!
2. We don’t really like it when you make friends with our friends. Female friends to be specific. Yeah I can’t really justify this one. Remember these are things we would never actually tell you. We want to know your friends though. Your friends tell us a lot about you. Plus if your friends like us, we know there’s a better chance we will last. Hypocritical much? Yes. But it makes sense in our heads. So why can’t you be friends with our friends? There’s always that fear, deep down, that you going to meet one of our friends and decide you like them more than us. Ex with a friend? Another not so cool move.
3.We DO want you to go out with your friends. This isn’t so much something we won’t tell you. It’s more something you boys don’t actually realize. When you come asking us if it’s ok for you to go to the game with the guys, or a boys weekend, or whatever it is you males get up to, you seem to think we going to go into a flying rage and demand you take us out to on an expensive date to compensate? Sweeties, we not THAT bat-shit crazy. And if you dating a girl that is, well, you might wanna end that one. The key is balance, as long as you not always ditching us for the guys, we cool. Just don’t cheat well you away. Already been said, but worth repeating, cheating isn’t cool.
4. When we say we “OK” or “Fine” we more than likely aren’t. When boys have issues they generally don’t like talking about it. We know that. We do though. But we know you don’t. So when we say things like “OK” and “Fine”, we really actually have so much more to say. This is the part where you have to put your girlfriend first and actually make an effort to read between the lines and find out whats wrong. We actually want to see you make an effort. It shows us you really care. Like I said, girls communicate. Boy’s not so much. So sometimes we think you don’t care, this is our way of checking if you do. So don’t be offended by the short answers. Use it as a sign that there’s something she really wants to say. Ignoring her after a “Fine” is a no no. Add that to your “not cool” list.
5. We like to be chased Yes it’s true. We do. We sometimes try come across hardcore and say we don’t but we like to be chased. We hate to chase. BUT we don’t want you coming on overly strong. Clingy makes us feel trapped. No one likes to be trapped. When we sure of our feelings we’ll give up the chase and let you catch us. [I should so go into Romantic literature]. Our biggest fear-this is a big statement- its falling for all your wooing and sweet talking and finding out down the line you meant none of it and you were pulling the “i want to get into her pants only” move. This is the main reason for all the other things I’ve mentioned. Even when we in a relationship with you, this will also be in the back of our minds, at least at the beginning. So we constantly want to feel like there’s a bit of a chase. You chasing us makes us feel wanted. If we feel wanted we reciprocate feelings. So don’t chase a girl if you don’t want to catch her. It’s not cool!
teganashley 