We live in the Age of Technology. There is no doubt about it. Just about everyone has some sort of smartphone. All of us have some form of computer access. iPads and the like are popular. We can do just about anything online. But how has this affected our relationships? How has this affected dating and finding love?
Gone are the days of a guy asking you for your number. Remember the days you spoke on your home phone to a boy you liked. Running to the home phone every time it rang just incase it was him. Now you give a guy your cell number and get a whatsapp message asking for your BBM pin where after awhile you become Facebook friends. Now not only are we worried about when to message him or what to message him but also which medium is the most appropriate.
Social Networking can be positive though. It allows you to make contact with past friends and now you have the potential to rekindle friendships. Twitter is a great way to meet like minded people and make friends. It’s also fun AND informative. I’m definitely more clued up in whats happening in the world since joining. Guys don’t like dumb girls, being informed about things is actually a turn on for both sexes.
So you have facebook and/or twitter. What happens when the opposite sex starts flirting. It could start with @ messages to DM’s, move on to BBM, now what? Do you meet up? Do you remain online friends? It’s a pretty tricky grey area. I’ve met some people I’ve made friends with on Twitter, most of them are great. I’ve made one or two close friends even. But there is always that risk that a person is completely different in real life than online. Or you may just not “click”. Then there’s the OMG YOUR PROFILE PICTURE IS SO PHOTOSHOPPED situation. Luckily haven’t experienced that one yet *knocks on wood*.
I think there 3 rules to remember when meeting online friends.
1. Be safe. Always meet in a public place. Maybe do some background research. [P.S Facebook stalking is SO allowed. It’s not our fault they made there FB profile public]. I personally only meet ones that I know have friends in common. That way I know they not psycho killers.
2. If you meeting someone of the opposite sex who you may have a crush on, don’t go expecting much. Rather expect nothing and be pleasantly surprised. He might have totally different expectations. You might be thinking possible relationship and him possible friendship and visa versa. Keep it casual. Have fun. Just go with the flow.
3. Be yourself. Be real. Online and offline. You’d be disappointed and ticked off if a guy posted a pic of a ripped model with a six pack and he really was a scrawny ginger, so don’t post a picture of an FHM model if you not. Don’t pretend you the worlds biggest Manchester United supporter because that’s his team and you don’t even know who Wayne Rooney is.
In this day and age I think it’s only normal to be open to this new thing of meeting people online. I started off very against it but I’m so glad I decided to be open minded because like I said I’ve met some awesome people and formed some amazing friendship. So if you haven’t yet, step out of your comfort zone and get out there and make friends.