“Don’t hate the player, hate the game.” We’ve all heard the saying. In the game men are taught to chase and women to be chased.
Let’s face it, the dating game is fun, as annoying as it can be. Imagine if every girl you approached said yes to dating you, it would get a bit boring after awhile. There’s different reasons women play hard to get, and with no further ado, here we go…
You meet a girl at the bar. She’s with her friends but she keeps glancing your way. You approach with your killer smile, and swag that has never failed you but she clearly does not seem interested. Yeah so she was glancing at you, it doesn’t necessarily mean she wanted you to approach her. Sometimes girls just want to look and know we being checked out back. That’s all. We weird like that. Don’t be offended, at least you know she thought you were cute. 😉
Maybe you managed to get her number. Half the battle won there buddy. Now you need to call. You gather up the courage and get smacked with the dreaded voice mail. You leave her a nice, normal message with your name and number. Key words here, “nice and normal”. A day or two passes and she doesn’t call back. You try again, this time getting through. She apologizes saying she was super busy. Should the alarm bells be going off? Why didn’t she call you straight away? Answers simple. She doesn’t want to seem too eager or too available. She want’s to act all calm and chilled even if her heart skips a beat at the sight of your call. Lets just be honest, if she was readily available all the time, constantly called you and slept with you after the first night you’d lose interest pretty quickly. But if she puts up a bit of a challenge, doesn’t say yes to every date and keeps you guessing, you stay interested. I’m right. Don’t argue.
What if she keeps constantly making excuses not to see you. She’s busy Friday, Saturday and Sunday. Heck, she’s busy the next week straight. Some of the excuses are a tiny bit lame as well. “I need to bake cupcakes for my best friend.” You give up, telling her when she’s free to give you a call. You know for sure she has your number but you still don’t hear from her. Buddy, she’s just not that into you. If she was interested, she would at least give you a decent apology and call to say hi and promise that she’ll get together as soon as she can.
Or you on a date with the girl. Date means you in the game. High five! Everything is going great. Good conversation. There’s chemistry. You feeling pretty good about yourself, so at the end of the night you decide to go in for the kiss. She pulls away shyly and leaves, leaving you thinking, WTF?! One big reason many girls play hard to get is because they don’t really trust men. Maybe they’ve been hurt in the past, they know how their guy friends boast about their sexual conquests or whatever reason. They just want to make sure the guy is not looking to solely get into her pants. Basically she’s protecting herself from getting hurt. So if she’s playing hard to get, there’s a good chance she’s just testing the waters. It’s not that she isn’t interested.
You’ve reached the relationship stage. She’s still got a bit of a wall up though. In general men are less likely to commit but when they do, they usually surer about it than us girls. This is because women tend to over analyze and question a lot more things than men do therefore creating more doubt in their minds.
Playing hard to get comes with dating. You going to be hard pressed to find a women who doesn’t play hard to get. Don’t get discouraged every time you turned down, it doesn’t necessarily mean she’s not into you. Now that you know why women play hard to get, it’s easier to distinguish which ones are worth the chase and which ones are not. Happy chasing boys 😉