Monthly Archives: May 2012

The Friend Zone Part 2- Why are you in the friend zone and how to get out of it.

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If you ever been friend zoned, which I’m pretty sure everyone has experienced, you probably wondering why the hell why? Well there’s a couple of things that can get you friend-zoned…

She’s just not that into you bro. Yeah, maybe she thinks you such a nice guy. Maybe she thinks you really smart. Lets not forget hilarious. Despite all this she’s just not attracted to you. Sometimes this happens. We can’t always control who we are and aren’t attracted to. I’ve been in the situation where a guy, on paper,was pretty perfect, but there just was no attraction and you can’t force that. I’m pretty sure no one want’s to be with someone that isn’t attracted to them. If this is the case, and she’s just not attracted to you, you have two options, carry on being her friend and accept that that’s most probably all it will ever be or cut your losses and cut contact with her.

You just TOO nice. Obviously there is nothing wrong with being nice but being overly nice will get you nowhere. She knows you will be there to answer her every little whimsical need. You already all she needs packaged under the label “friend”. Following her around like a love-sick puppy just makes you look sad and pathetic, and no one wants to date the sad, pathetic guy. All you going to end up being is the guy she calls to tell you what an asshole her date was.

She’s used to dating bad boys. If this is true, she’s most probably been hurt in the past and blames this on the male species in general. [I’m still deciding where I stand on this one ;)]. “Relationship with a NICE guy? He treats me like a princess? Where’s the catch?” For this type of girl, in her head there’s always a catch and she’s not willing to take a chance. Good news is these type of girls are actually desperate to be convinced that decent guys exist, so if you like her that much, soldier on, soldier!

Like I mentioned before, if you’ve been put in the friend zone it’s pretty hard to escape, but it’s not impossible.

Step 1: Stop being a stage-5 clinger! Hard to get is key. Us humans tend to want what we think we can’t have, so make getting you a challenge. [There is a fine line here though, if you become too unavailable, she’ll move on to the next one.]

Step 2: Show that you interested in other women. If she has the slightest interest in you this will drive her crazy!

Step 3: Turn the tables. Ask her for advice on girls. Girls are very jealous creatures, again if there’s any interest this will make her crazy,

Step 4: Tell her YOU just want to be friends. After step 2 and 3, she will barely be able to stand it anymore.

Step 5: Ask her out to dinner. Put your arm around her. Do all the things you’d do if you were interested in a girl.

Step 6: If she responds to step 5, then be unpredictable [not psycho!] Basically keep her guessing. Never little her think she has you wrapped around her little finger. Girls want to be with a guy that WANTS her, not NEEDS her. This is the key.

Good luck getting out the friend zone and getting your girl ūüėČ

My Geeky Nerdy Lust List

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Normally I do a fashion/beauty lust list once a month. I’ve decided I need to do one for my inner nerd as well, because oh my word there’s some really cool stuff out there!

NINTENDO WALL GRAPHICS

OMF I need these for my room! Actually forget my room, I’d put these around my whole apartment.

ELECTRONICS CLEANING PUTTY

How clever is this? This is something I definitely need.

SALT AND PEPPER SHAKERS

They just cool. Do you need another reason?

LASER VIRTUAL KEYBOARD

I’ve wanted one of these ever since I saw it in a movie! So, it’s my birthday in 3 months ūüėČ

I found all these things on HackerThings

World’s Best Bartender

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I came across this video and I had to share it. This guy has some mad talent!

I know a few people who’ve done flair bartending and I know it’s no easy skill. I’ve even attempted flipping a bottle mid-air myself…it ended badly. This guy’s skill blows my mind. You wanna check it out.

I wish I could do that!

The Friend Zone Part 1- The reason for the friend zone and how do you know if you’ve been zoned!

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It’s been said, all women need to do to get sex is ask for it. For women though sex is usually more emotional therefore girls aren’t willing to give up the goodies as readily as guys are. The result, more men get placed into friend zone than women do.

By having a good guy friend, a girl is pretty much sorted. She has someone with all the male qualities she looks for in a relationship such as strength, help in making decisions, logic etc, without the emotional and hormonal mess that sex can bring to the table.

Men are made up differently though. Men aren’t as emotional as their female counterparts. When a guy likes a women, he naturally wants to show these feelings…in the bedroom.

When a girl meets a guy they almost¬†immediately¬†decide “potential lover” or “potential friend”. It’s true, once you’ve been friend zoned it’s almost impossible to get out of the zone…almost. The unfortunate thing, if you do become a close friend, she’ll¬†unintentionally¬†treat you like a lover but without the added benefits.

If you think you can be the best friend who’s shoulder she can cry on, and she will one day wake up and realize you the one for her…you have been watching way too many chick flicks because you are sadly mistaken.

So have you been friend zoned? How do you know if you’ve been friend zoned?

There are ways to tell if you just a friend.

If she says things like, “I love that I can tell you anything!” ‘You such a nice guy!’ or the dreaded, “You like a brother to me!” then hate to say it, you so far into the friend zone that chances of ever exiting are looking grim. Maybe you’ve finally decided to bite the bullet and ask her out, you get the “I don’t wanna ruin our friendship.” Then you have to continue hearing about all her boy drama and you just want to shake some sense into her, while sitting there thinking “how the hell did I get here?” Yeah it sucks, but depending on why she decided to friend zone you, you stand a small chance of climbing out and winning the girl.

Part 2 you’ll find out why you got friend zoned and how to avoid it in the future.

Stay tuned!

What 90s Kids Know

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I’m sure we can all agree that growing up in the 90s was way better than growing up now. The tv shows we had back then can’t even compare to the ones that show now. I found this picture that sent me on a total trip down memory lane, and had to share it.

How’s that for a blast from the past? Ahhh those were the good old days. I’m proud to be a 90s kid.¬†

Friday Cocktail- Strawberry Basil Margarita

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I thought I’d stick with Margarita’s this week. They easy to make and perfect for entertaining. This week it’s a Strawberry Basil Margarita.

makes 1 pitcher, or about 8 servings

1 can frozen limeade concentrate
10 strawberries (or 12 if you’re using smaller ones from the farmer’s market or your backyard.)
8 basil leaves
2 to 2 1/2 cups tequila (gold or silver)

Empty the limeade concentrate into a pitcher. Add 2 1/2 cans of water and ¬†2 1/4 cups of tequila (or a bit less, if you don’t want your drinks to be quite as strong).

Hull the strawberries, slice lengthwise, and add to the pitcher. Crumple the basil a little in your hands (this will help the basil flavor release into the drink) and add it to the pitcher, too. Place the pitcher, covered, in the fridge overnight, or for at least four hours.

I got this recipe from The Kitchn. Pop over to their site for many more delicious cocktails.

Have a smashing weekend y’all!