If you ever been friend zoned, which I’m pretty sure everyone has experienced, you probably wondering why the hell why? Well there’s a couple of things that can get you friend-zoned…
She’s just not that into you bro. Yeah, maybe she thinks you such a nice guy. Maybe she thinks you really smart. Lets not forget hilarious. Despite all this she’s just not attracted to you. Sometimes this happens. We can’t always control who we are and aren’t attracted to. I’ve been in the situation where a guy, on paper,was pretty perfect, but there just was no attraction and you can’t force that. I’m pretty sure no one want’s to be with someone that isn’t attracted to them. If this is the case, and she’s just not attracted to you, you have two options, carry on being her friend and accept that that’s most probably all it will ever be or cut your losses and cut contact with her.
You just TOO nice. Obviously there is nothing wrong with being nice but being overly nice will get you nowhere. She knows you will be there to answer her every little whimsical need. You already all she needs packaged under the label “friend”. Following her around like a love-sick puppy just makes you look sad and pathetic, and no one wants to date the sad, pathetic guy. All you going to end up being is the guy she calls to tell you what an asshole her date was.
She’s used to dating bad boys. If this is true, she’s most probably been hurt in the past and blames this on the male species in general. [I’m still deciding where I stand on this one ;)]. “Relationship with a NICE guy? He treats me like a princess? Where’s the catch?” For this type of girl, in her head there’s always a catch and she’s not willing to take a chance. Good news is these type of girls are actually desperate to be convinced that decent guys exist, so if you like her that much, soldier on, soldier!
Like I mentioned before, if you’ve been put in the friend zone it’s pretty hard to escape, but it’s not impossible.
Step 1: Stop being a stage-5 clinger! Hard to get is key. Us humans tend to want what we think we can’t have, so make getting you a challenge. [There is a fine line here though, if you become too unavailable, she’ll move on to the next one.]
Step 2: Show that you interested in other women. If she has the slightest interest in you this will drive her crazy!
Step 3: Turn the tables. Ask her for advice on girls. Girls are very jealous creatures, again if there’s any interest this will make her crazy,
Step 4: Tell her YOU just want to be friends. After step 2 and 3, she will barely be able to stand it anymore.
Step 5: Ask her out to dinner. Put your arm around her. Do all the things you’d do if you were interested in a girl.
Step 6: If she responds to step 5, then be unpredictable [not psycho!] Basically keep her guessing. Never little her think she has you wrapped around her little finger. Girls want to be with a guy that WANTS her, not NEEDS her. This is the key.
Good luck getting out the friend zone and getting your girl 😉